The Alphabet Of Sex – E Is For Experimentation

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I’ve been on forced hiatus for a few months, so sorry for leaving everybody in the lurch. I hope you had a super Christmas and New Years, and that you got some sexy gifts and PLENTY of personal attention over the festive season! I know I did…

Back to my Alphabet Of Sex, and E is for Experimentation...

As most of you know, I love to try things I’ve never tried before. Sometimes I think there’s nothing left to try, but then something comes along that I think “well, I never did that…yet”.

I didn’t lose my virginity until quite late, but every time I try a new sexual position, or new sex toy, or even just a new guy, it always feels like I’m popping my cherry all over again, because it’s simply a ‘new experience’.

As I’ve gotten older, it does get harder and harder to find things that excite me as freshly as stuff did right at the start, but I just tell myself that finding new challenges is up to me, it’s absolutely my responsibility to go and search out experiences that keep me feeling alive. Nothing comes along by nature, because nature dictates that we must determine out own survival.

For this reason, I try to do something new at least once a month, to keep my sex life new and fresh. I have reliable lovers that I can always go to if I need company, and a guaranteed great fuck, but it’s vital not to fall into a routine, no matter how happy my lover/s make me, because the moment I get settled, is the moment I stop looking for something more, and we should always be looking for ‘more’.

This is one of the reasons I insist on staying single. I like intimacy as much as the next person, but I refuse to be someone’s ‘girlfriend’. It restricts me and makes me feel labeled.

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One way of maintaining my individuality, and my appetite for something different, is that I like to experiment, and deviate, from whatever the ‘norm’ is. So below are a few suggestions for those of you who feel a little stale in your sex life. Spice things up a bit, do something a little out of the ordinary. Whether you’re in a long term relationship, or are happily playing the field – it doesn’t matter. These suggestions are for everybody. Don’t settle for routine and normality, because nothing is more guaranteed to kill a relationship, or stunt your single lifestyle, than just going through the motions.

Live a little, and let me know how you get on.

1. Tie me up, tie me down…

bondage

I was quite late to the bondage scene, perhaps I was a little afraid to trust a lover to tie me up. It’s not that I make a habit of fucking men I don’t know, but even if you’ve know a guy for a while, letting someone put bonds on you is about as trusting as it gets. I’m happy to say, though, that I’ve never had a bad experience, so if you’ve always wondered what it would be like to have sex while your wrists and ankles are tied up, restricting your movement, try some playful restraints to start you off, before switching things up a bit, maybe with some fetish ball gags or bondage bar.

2. Dress up!

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Everyone loves a little role play. Fantasy plays a huge part in my sex life, because it removes inhibitions for both me and my lover, and we can be anybody we choose without surrendering anything of ourselves. My favorite outfits are schoolgirl and nurse, but when I found myself bringing a real-life cop home one night, I brought out my own undercover uniform, which really got him going and I have to say it was some of the best sex I’d ever had. Getting fucked in the ass by a guy in uniform (yes, I made him keep it on…) was mindblowing.

3. No pain, no gain…

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This was a non-starter for me, many moons ago, but about three years ago, my lover of the time asked me ever-so-nicely, if I would let him put nipple clamps on my tits while we fucked. I laughed at first, because the idea just seemed so silly, and I couldn’t believe the thought of it turned him on, but I kind of liked him so I said yeah, I’d give it a try. And boy am I glad I did! Sure, they hurt a little bit, but as we got down to it, the feel of these tiny, cold metal things pulling my nipples in a kind of rhythm as we fucked, was weirdly erotic to me, and by the time I was ready to come, my nipples started to feel really hot, like I was conducting electricity through the clamps. It’s a hard sensation to explain, so you really have to try it, but never say never! I don’t use them often – usually only when the guy wants to, but the sensation was definitely something I could get used to.

4. Go swinging!

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I don’t mean the partner-swop parties (although they’re really fun), I mean the swings you can fix to doors. They’re really easy to instal, and your lover can fuck you a lot deeper than he can on a bed. It helps if you’re quite flexible (I do a lot of yoga and tantric sex, so I’m pretty clued up on what satisfies me), and you need to stretch and warm up before attempting a prolonged swing-screwing session, but once you get the hang of it (literally!), you’ll enjoy mindblowing sex, from every direction and every angle.

These are just a few things you can try out, if you’re feeling experimental, so let me know how you get on.

Next week, normal regular service is resumed, and I have a super-hot free story heading your way to say thanks for being so patient with me.

Have a great weekend, and come back soon!

BB xx

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The Alphabet Of Sex – D is for Deviation

OK, so nothing really dangerous or weird, just something different from the norm. It’s easy to slip into routines when it comes to sex, so it’s important to keep things fresh, especially if you’re married or in a long-term relationship. That feeling of illicit temptation we sometimes get when we’re in different situations, or we meet someone a bit dangerous that makes us challenge our own limits, that’s what we all need from time to time, to remind us that we’re still alive.

I met a guy once, who had that X-Factor. He wasn’t dazzlingly good looking, but he had tons of charisma, it just oozed from his soul like delicious treacle, and I couldn’t stay away from him. Our attraction was instant, and I knew within seconds of our handshake (we had mutual friends and we met on a group night out) that we would soon be having sex, and I was right.

But I wasn’t prepared for just how intense our fucking would be. Rob was a lot older than me, and even though I was very experienced, sexually, I was a novice compared to Rob. When they say people improve with age, they were talking about Rob. He taught me things in the bedroom that I’d never tried before, and I couldn’t wait to practice as often as possible with him. When we’d been fucking for a few weeks, he began introducing different techniques to our lovemaking that really stepped things up a gear, so I thought I’d share the Top 5 sexual positions that I grew to know and love, thanks to the delectable Rob.

1. The Sex Swing

I’d never used one of these before, although I’d seen them in the various sex stores I go to. It’s basically a harness that you attach to the door, or ceiling, and the straps and loops enable you to get your body into various positions, for some mindblowing sex. My favorite was to slip my legs through the loops and ‘sit’ on the straps, my thighs taking the weight, then to lean backwards, my hands on the floor. This way, my pussy was ‘offered’ up to Rob, my legs wide open, and he could fuck me standing up, using the hanging straps to hold onto while he pumped in and out of me. We managed to get really deep penetration this way, and if my arms got tired, all I’d have to do was lift them off the floor and ‘swing’ for a bit, while Rob was still fucking me, so we got great motion, too. You have to make sure the swing is attached VERY securely, though, so it can take the weight of two people, if necessary. Rob loved screwing me this way, as he got to see my tits bouncing upside down on my chest as he rammed me. He got a great view of my cunt, too. For me, the blood rush to my head as I’m hanging upside down, adds to the power of my orgasm.

2. Stairway to Heaven

I live in an olde-worlde English country cottage not far from Stonehenge, which is very magical and fairytale-like. My stairs are steep and quite rickety, but I discovered that they’re just great for having sex on. The staircase is made up of two sets of stairs, so there’s a small ‘landing’ (as the Brits call it) halfway up, just enough space for me to lean back on. The ballustrade has lots of spindles in it, so I used to get drape myself across this landing, open my legs, reach behind me and grab hold of the ballustrade while Rob went down on me. The slope of the stairs meant I could stretch my legs out into the air while he ate me out, and use the ballustrade behind me to pull and push myself on and off his face the more intense we got.

 

3. Restroom Raunch

As I said, I knew Rob and I would be fucking very soon after meeting, and it was actually about two hours into the group meal we were all having. We’d been throwing eyes at each other all evening, until neither of us could stand it any longer. The restaurant wasn’t busy, so I knew there was a real opportunity to see some action if we timed it right. I smiled at him as I got up and slipped away from the table, and he gave it a minute or so and followed me. Once inside the girl’s bathroom, I dragged him into a cubicle and we were naked in seconds. I love fucking in semi-public places, and because this was a guy I’d never so much as swapped a sentence with before, it just made the whole thing super-hot. There’s not much room in a toilet cubicle – and not much time, either – so we had to be quick and efficient. I never wear panties, so it was easy for him to just hoist up my tight dress, and finger me to get my juices going, before spinning me round and bending me over the tiny sink next to the toilet (they each had their own units). Because I was already wet from thinking about his cock in my cunt, he slid in easy, and we spent a heavenly few minutes screwing over the sink. I love being taken from behind, because guys can get deeper, and I love it when they reach around in front of me and squeeze my boobs, too, so it’s win-win for me. He made me cum in no time at all, rough and fast, and afterwards, we simply cleaned ourselves up and went back to the table just in time for dessert. Obviously, we took way more time with each other when I got him back to my place later, but that first, restroom fuck remains one of the spiciest I’ve ever had.

 

4. Anal Glory

Anal isn’t for everyone (see A Is For Anal for some beginner’s tips), but if you’re into some serious backdoor action, you know what I mean when I say it can be the most intense, sexual experience for both men and women. I like to lie flat on my stomach across the entire bed when I’m being ass-fucked, because every time my lover thrusts into me, my clit and pubic bone are pushed hard into the mattress, so I’m getting double stimulation. This works even better for me on a harder surface, like a table or the floor, but guys can have a hard time getting comfortable this way (it’s not all about me, right?). Sometimes I’ll place a bullet vibe underneath me, so my clit gets a full workout while my asshole is being stretched. Other times, Rob used to push his hand under my pussy and finger me while he pumped my ass, pulling me up slightly as he did so. It meant I didn’t have to do a thing, which was great. Again, your lover needs to be quite strong to do this. My asshole is incredibly sensitive, and Rob liked to go slow, so we could go at it this way for literally hours.

 

5. Electric Dreams

Before I met Rob, I liked to think I’d tried just about everything, sexually, but I was wrong. Rob introduced me to the wonders of electro-stimulation, and even though I was a little reticent at first (I like a little S&M but I wasn’t into real pain), I was amazed to discover that a short, sharp shock, can really add to the electricity in the bedroom – literally. For my birthday, Rob bought me an electrosex kit. It contained lots of little metal clamps that you could attach to a generator, with variable charge settings. To start with, he’d attach a small clamp to each of my nipples (they were very comfortable, and quite cold, which made my nipples erect immediately), then sent the lowest charge surging through my teats. It felt tingly, nothing major, but I did notice that my nipples responded immediately and, after a few seconds, I could feel the faintest of stimulations beginning to wash over my belly and down to my pussy. I thought “well if this is how good it feels at the mildest setting, and not even anywhere near my glory hole, what must it feel like when this thing really gets going?”. In fact, despite Rob being keen for me to get comfortable before progressing even further, it was me who couldn’t wait to crank things up a gear. Before long, I was lying back on my bed as I let him attach clamps to my pussy lips, and then to my clit. He’d vary the power, from low, to mild, to high, and I’m telling you, this little toy could give me an orgasm within seconds, it was incredible. After lots of experimentation, for both of us, we found the best technique. That was for me to have clamps on my clit and nipples, and Rob to have a couple on his balls while he fucked me. Rob’s cock would feel twice as big and twice as hard, and his orgasms were so intense, he’d be shooting off inside me for a good ten seconds, and he’d stay harder for longer, afterwards (I like to play with a guy’s cock after he’s cum). For me, electrosex was the first time I’d had a dual orgasm, from both my G spot and clit, so it’s hard to settle for anything else after that!

The Alphabet Of Sex – C is for Climax

Clit, Cunt, Cock…there are too many lovely things to talk about. But I’ve settled on Climax because, at the end of the day, that’s what we’re all aiming for – cumming (another C!), and all the other Cs are just a means to this end.

Men are usually lucky when it comes to achieving orgasm – wind it up, and it will go. But not all women have quite such an easy time of it. The vast majority of us can reach clitoral orgasm with sufficient stimulation and arousal, but climaxing through penetrative sex isn’t actually all that common. Scientists have argued for years over whether women even have a ‘G-spot’. I think we do (I know I do…), but I’m not sure how much of its existence is physical, or more emotional.

I cam cum any way I like – clitorally, vaginally and anally – but that’s only after years of practice. I even had an orgasm when I was sucking a guy off, once. That wasn’t because I’d suddenly grown a clit in my throat, obviously. It was because my brain was so aroused as I was fellating him, it sent that message down to my pussy, and it made me climax. And we’ve all had those sex dreams where we’re having an orgasm so intense, it actually wakes us up. So climaxing can’t be a purely physical thing.

So, for any woman who has trouble climaxing, try and use your mind a bit more when you’re having sex. Think it, and it will cum. Relax every muscle in your body and ‘go with the flow’ and see not just where your guy’s (or girl’s) fingers or cock can take you, but where your own imagination can.

If it helps, here are 5 Ways I’m Guaranteed to Climax

1. Tease my bud gentlydon’t go at it like you’re trying to break the world speed record, guys. It’s a sensitive organ, just like your cock. But, unlike your cock, it responds better to prolonged attention, not quick pulls. I love a guy to either lick or stroke my clit slow and long, before picking up speed as I feel my orgasm rise. Imagine it’s a rollercoaster, and you have that slow, slow climb the top before…..weeeeeeeeee, you’re off over the edge and there’s no going back. Well, that’s how our clits work.

2. Stroke my breasts while you’re fucking me – a personal one, this, obviously. I just love a guy fondling my tits while he’s screwing me. My nipples are super sensitive, it’s like they have their own in-built clit, so I either stroke myself, or get him to do it while he’s inside me with his cock. I cum every time.

3. Never stop touching – it doesn’t matter if you’re screwing my pussy, my ass or my mouth. Don’t let your fingers go to sleep. Stimulation during sex shouldn’t just come from your cock. Guys have two more sex organs, they’re called hands. USE THEM. While your cock is enjoying my cunt, your hands should be stroking my face, my butt, my thighs, my shoulders, the nape of my neck (yes, please!) or even just playing with my hair. Touch, touch, then touch some more, because a woman’s brain will convert those caresses into extra bits of orgasm.

4. Going for it in the shower – I can do this by myself, although it’s just as much fun with a partner. My shower is the best vibrator in the world, bar none. Every morning, I just can’t wait to get into the bathroom and push that powerful, hot jet between my legs for an instant climax. And there’s no cleaning up required, so it’s time-saving, too.

5. Fucking in secret – having sex, masturbating, or having a guy masturbate me, right in front of people who have no clue what we’re doing, is an absolute fail-safe for making me cum. On a crowded subway train or bus, when everyone’s jammed up against each other, I often get my guy to start fingering me, because I just love the thrill of looking at other people’s oblivious faces, while he has his hand on my pussy. Even thinking about it, as I’m writing it, is making me tingle. It’s not exhibitionism, because if the person standing next to me suddenly realized what we were doing, that doesn’t excite me one bit. I think it’s just us knowing, that’s enough for me. That secret bit of knowledge, really turns me on.

So, what’s guaranteed to make you climax? Something physical? Or is the mere thought of something enough to send you on your way?

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