I’ve been on forced hiatus for a few months, so sorry for leaving everybody in the lurch. I hope you had a super Christmas and New Years, and that you got some sexy gifts and PLENTY of personal attention over the festive season! I know I did…
Back to my Alphabet Of Sex, and E is for Experimentation...
As most of you know, I love to try things I’ve never tried before. Sometimes I think there’s nothing left to try, but then something comes along that I think “well, I never did that…yet”.
I didn’t lose my virginity until quite late, but every time I try a new sexual position, or new sex toy, or even just a new guy, it always feels like I’m popping my cherry all over again, because it’s simply a ‘new experience’.
As I’ve gotten older, it does get harder and harder to find things that excite me as freshly as stuff did right at the start, but I just tell myself that finding new challenges is up to me, it’s absolutely my responsibility to go and search out experiences that keep me feeling alive. Nothing comes along by nature, because nature dictates that we must determine out own survival.
For this reason, I try to do something new at least once a month, to keep my sex life new and fresh. I have reliable lovers that I can always go to if I need company, and a guaranteed great fuck, but it’s vital not to fall into a routine, no matter how happy my lover/s make me, because the moment I get settled, is the moment I stop looking for something more, and we should always be looking for ‘more’.
This is one of the reasons I insist on staying single. I like intimacy as much as the next person, but I refuse to be someone’s ‘girlfriend’. It restricts me and makes me feel labeled.
One way of maintaining my individuality, and my appetite for something different, is that I like to experiment, and deviate, from whatever the ‘norm’ is. So below are a few suggestions for those of you who feel a little stale in your sex life. Spice things up a bit, do something a little out of the ordinary. Whether you’re in a long term relationship, or are happily playing the field – it doesn’t matter. These suggestions are for everybody. Don’t settle for routine and normality, because nothing is more guaranteed to kill a relationship, or stunt your single lifestyle, than just going through the motions.
Live a little, and let me know how you get on.
1. Tie me up, tie me down…
I was quite late to the bondage scene, perhaps I was a little afraid to trust a lover to tie me up. It’s not that I make a habit of fucking men I don’t know, but even if you’ve know a guy for a while, letting someone put bonds on you is about as trusting as it gets. I’m happy to say, though, that I’ve never had a bad experience, so if you’ve always wondered what it would be like to have sex while your wrists and ankles are tied up, restricting your movement, try some playful restraints to start you off, before switching things up a bit, maybe with some fetish ball gags or bondage bar.
2. Dress up!
Everyone loves a little role play. Fantasy plays a huge part in my sex life, because it removes inhibitions for both me and my lover, and we can be anybody we choose without surrendering anything of ourselves. My favorite outfits are schoolgirl and nurse, but when I found myself bringing a real-life cop home one night, I brought out my own undercover uniform, which really got him going and I have to say it was some of the best sex I’d ever had. Getting fucked in the ass by a guy in uniform (yes, I made him keep it on…) was mindblowing.
3. No pain, no gain…
This was a non-starter for me, many moons ago, but about three years ago, my lover of the time asked me ever-so-nicely, if I would let him put nipple clamps on my tits while we fucked. I laughed at first, because the idea just seemed so silly, and I couldn’t believe the thought of it turned him on, but I kind of liked him so I said yeah, I’d give it a try. And boy am I glad I did! Sure, they hurt a little bit, but as we got down to it, the feel of these tiny, cold metal things pulling my nipples in a kind of rhythm as we fucked, was weirdly erotic to me, and by the time I was ready to come, my nipples started to feel really hot, like I was conducting electricity through the clamps. It’s a hard sensation to explain, so you really have to try it, but never say never! I don’t use them often – usually only when the guy wants to, but the sensation was definitely something I could get used to.
4. Go swinging!
I don’t mean the partner-swop parties (although they’re really fun), I mean the swings you can fix to doors. They’re really easy to instal, and your lover can fuck you a lot deeper than he can on a bed. It helps if you’re quite flexible (I do a lot of yoga and tantric sex, so I’m pretty clued up on what satisfies me), and you need to stretch and warm up before attempting a prolonged swing-screwing session, but once you get the hang of it (literally!), you’ll enjoy mindblowing sex, from every direction and every angle.
These are just a few things you can try out, if you’re feeling experimental, so let me know how you get on.
Next week, normal regular service is resumed, and I have a super-hot free story heading your way to say thanks for being so patient with me.
Have a great weekend, and come back soon!