The Alphabet of Sex – H Is For Horny

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Ever since I moved to the UK, I’ve noticed that they use this word a lot – horny, meaning very turned on and in need of a good fucking. I love the word because it sounds dirty and naughty without being too “in your face.” But do you ever have times when you’re just not feeling horny at all? Whether you’re stressed at work or have a demanding home life, it’s not easy to get in the mood for sex.

I believe we should feel naughty all of the time, so I thought I’d share my favorite ways of being able to feel horny all day long.

1 – Wear sexy lingerie

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It doesn’t matter where you’re going, what you’re doing or who you’re doing it with, wearing sexy lingerie just automatically makes you feel horny. I could be running to the store in my sweats with tied back hair and filthy sneakers, but I always have hot panties on. There’s something about the feeling of satin and lace against my pussy which just makes me feel permanently horny. And if you feel sexy on the inside, it shows on the outside. So throw out any unflattering underwear and splash out on a whole new drawer of gorgeous lingerie to make you feel special all of the time. Buy sexy lingerie here.

2. Use scent

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I mean not just perfumes, but anything from scented candles and incense, to aromatic foods and, of course, our own unique scents. I love being surrounded by smells like sandalwood, patchouli and musk, because they ignite past memories of great sex and former lovers who were fabulous bed. But my favorite scent is always that raw smell of sex, it’s our natural pheromones working overtime to excite us. If you’re single, or in a relationship where the sex is just not happening, then don’t be afraid to satisfy yourself. When I masturbate, I love smelling myself afterwards, that hot rawness of my own pussy is just the best smell out there. Buy sexy scents here.

3. Watch a naughty movie

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Feeling horny is all about stimulating the senses, so if you and your lover need a kick in the right direction, either check out some of the hot pornos out there right now, or log in to a live sex show online – there are lots of websites offering live voyeuristic sex and most of them are secure to use. There’s nothing hotter than lying with your lover and watching other people have sex. How can you not get in the mood after that? Get naughty movies here.

4. Invest in a new sex toy

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We’ve already touched on masturbation (excuse the pun!) but even if you have a treasure chest full of sex toys, it’s easy to get bored with the same old vibrators and dildos, so maybe it’s time to expand your sexual horizons and look at purchasing something new. My personal favorites include anal beads, which I use at the same time as a vibe on my clit to give me an extra sensation from my ass when I orgasm. I also love those cute little vibrators which fit in your panties. They’re basically clit-sized, and remote-controlled, so you can just slip them in as you go about your day and get yourself off quick and easy as and when you need to. You can also buy the built-in version attached to special panties. I get mine from Sienna Sinclaire’s store, here.

BBx

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The Alphabet Of Sex – E Is For Experimentation

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I’ve been on forced hiatus for a few months, so sorry for leaving everybody in the lurch. I hope you had a super Christmas and New Years, and that you got some sexy gifts and PLENTY of personal attention over the festive season! I know I did…

Back to my Alphabet Of Sex, and E is for Experimentation...

As most of you know, I love to try things I’ve never tried before. Sometimes I think there’s nothing left to try, but then something comes along that I think “well, I never did that…yet”.

I didn’t lose my virginity until quite late, but every time I try a new sexual position, or new sex toy, or even just a new guy, it always feels like I’m popping my cherry all over again, because it’s simply a ‘new experience’.

As I’ve gotten older, it does get harder and harder to find things that excite me as freshly as stuff did right at the start, but I just tell myself that finding new challenges is up to me, it’s absolutely my responsibility to go and search out experiences that keep me feeling alive. Nothing comes along by nature, because nature dictates that we must determine out own survival.

For this reason, I try to do something new at least once a month, to keep my sex life new and fresh. I have reliable lovers that I can always go to if I need company, and a guaranteed great fuck, but it’s vital not to fall into a routine, no matter how happy my lover/s make me, because the moment I get settled, is the moment I stop looking for something more, and we should always be looking for ‘more’.

This is one of the reasons I insist on staying single. I like intimacy as much as the next person, but I refuse to be someone’s ‘girlfriend’. It restricts me and makes me feel labeled.

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One way of maintaining my individuality, and my appetite for something different, is that I like to experiment, and deviate, from whatever the ‘norm’ is. So below are a few suggestions for those of you who feel a little stale in your sex life. Spice things up a bit, do something a little out of the ordinary. Whether you’re in a long term relationship, or are happily playing the field – it doesn’t matter. These suggestions are for everybody. Don’t settle for routine and normality, because nothing is more guaranteed to kill a relationship, or stunt your single lifestyle, than just going through the motions.

Live a little, and let me know how you get on.

1. Tie me up, tie me down…

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I was quite late to the bondage scene, perhaps I was a little afraid to trust a lover to tie me up. It’s not that I make a habit of fucking men I don’t know, but even if you’ve know a guy for a while, letting someone put bonds on you is about as trusting as it gets. I’m happy to say, though, that I’ve never had a bad experience, so if you’ve always wondered what it would be like to have sex while your wrists and ankles are tied up, restricting your movement, try some playful restraints to start you off, before switching things up a bit, maybe with some fetish ball gags or bondage bar.

2. Dress up!

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Everyone loves a little role play. Fantasy plays a huge part in my sex life, because it removes inhibitions for both me and my lover, and we can be anybody we choose without surrendering anything of ourselves. My favorite outfits are schoolgirl and nurse, but when I found myself bringing a real-life cop home one night, I brought out my own undercover uniform, which really got him going and I have to say it was some of the best sex I’d ever had. Getting fucked in the ass by a guy in uniform (yes, I made him keep it on…) was mindblowing.

3. No pain, no gain…

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This was a non-starter for me, many moons ago, but about three years ago, my lover of the time asked me ever-so-nicely, if I would let him put nipple clamps on my tits while we fucked. I laughed at first, because the idea just seemed so silly, and I couldn’t believe the thought of it turned him on, but I kind of liked him so I said yeah, I’d give it a try. And boy am I glad I did! Sure, they hurt a little bit, but as we got down to it, the feel of these tiny, cold metal things pulling my nipples in a kind of rhythm as we fucked, was weirdly erotic to me, and by the time I was ready to come, my nipples started to feel really hot, like I was conducting electricity through the clamps. It’s a hard sensation to explain, so you really have to try it, but never say never! I don’t use them often – usually only when the guy wants to, but the sensation was definitely something I could get used to.

4. Go swinging!

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I don’t mean the partner-swop parties (although they’re really fun), I mean the swings you can fix to doors. They’re really easy to instal, and your lover can fuck you a lot deeper than he can on a bed. It helps if you’re quite flexible (I do a lot of yoga and tantric sex, so I’m pretty clued up on what satisfies me), and you need to stretch and warm up before attempting a prolonged swing-screwing session, but once you get the hang of it (literally!), you’ll enjoy mindblowing sex, from every direction and every angle.

These are just a few things you can try out, if you’re feeling experimental, so let me know how you get on.

Next week, normal regular service is resumed, and I have a super-hot free story heading your way to say thanks for being so patient with me.

Have a great weekend, and come back soon!

BB xx

Normal Service Is Resumed!

So sorry for my absence during most of the Summer. Real life has a habit of interfering and throwing us off course from where we really want to be. But no matter, as we usually find our way ‘home’ again!

So to update you, I will shortly be uploading the final part of my free erotica series, “The Drifter”. I know many of you have been waiting to see what happens to lonely Mr McCoy, so soon you’ll find out! Thanks for all the kind comments.

“The Alphabet of Sex” will be resuming today, with the letter ‘D’. What word would you choose? Watch this space later this afternoon.

The real exciting news, though, is that I am well on with a longer story, that should get some pulses racing. Although I spend a lot of time in my adopted home of Wiltshire, England (it’s straight from Miss Marple!), I have been lucky enough to get over to the island of Jersey (that’s the Channel Islands, y’all, not NJ!). It’s so pretty there, and closer to France, than England (for those that don’t know). So it was nice to catch up with friends but, even better, it gave me the inspiration for a hot new story, based around the naughtiness of this millionaire’s playground. Vineyards, beaches, forest glades and stunning French village architecture…you just know that there’s something seriously sexy going on behind the shutters when the tourists leave town…

So watch this space for my new, longer-length erotic story that’ll be showing up on Smashwords soon.

And thanks for your patience!

Love BB.

The Alphabet Of Sex – ‘A’ Is For Anal

It’s easy to think that, in these open times, where nothing seems to be taboo anymore, that people everywhere are just ‘getting on with it’, free of any inhibitions, and are more than willing to explore anything and everything.

I actually think the opposite is true. The internet, and social media in general, may have opened up the world to anyone with access, but it’s also making people paranoid. They’re thinking everybody else seems to be having great sex, except me. Is there something wrong with me?

Of course, that’s rubbish. But it is true that many people are simply just too afraid/embarrassed/lazy to address bedroom and body issues that, with a little dedication, education, and a whole lot of experimentation, could mean the difference between a life of orgasmic discovery, and one of tragically missed opportunities.

With this in mind, I thought it would be fun to start an Alphabet of Sex. Not just to talk about 26 different things to do with sex, but to try and address serious questions, explode a few urban myths, and also get people out there having fun, doing things they might not otherwise have thought of.

And don’t worry – this lengthy intro is just to kick things off… I know your time is precious. From B onwards, I’ll make it quick!!

Obviously, we start with ‘A’, which has a ready-made jumping off point…Anal sex, or knocking at the back door, buggery, digging a ditch…whatever you want to call it, having someone push their cock (or vibrator) up your asshole, remains somewhat taboo amongst conventional heterosexual (and lesbian) couples. Many consider it unnatural, which I guess it is. Anatomically, men and women were designed to procreate, which is why men have lovely big cocks, and women have stretchy pussies able to push out watermelons at will. Our assholes, admittedly, were not made for much more than defecating (although you can get pregnant from anal intercourse). So it’s understandable that people – mostly women – associate anal sex with a great amount of pain and little sexual satisfaction.

But it doesn’t have to be that way…

Like most things in life, you never forget the first time you do something. Flying in a plane, riding a bike, smoking a cigarette, having your ass fucked…..it’s not something you forget in a hurry. But, follow a few simple set of safety rules, and there’s no reason why anal sex can’t be one of the most exhilarating, and intimate, experiences for both of you.

1. Foreplay – your back door is naturally tight, and the nerve endings are numerous. Because it’s important to relax you asshole before penetration, foreplay is vital. If you’re the receiver, get your partner to massage, caress, then gently push at the entrance to your hole. As your body gets used to the ‘invader’, you’ll naturally relax more when it comes to taking the cock, or sex toy, fully.

2. Lubricate, Lubricate! – sounds logical, but lots of people forget. Whereas our pussies will lubricate naturally, when aroused, our asses don’t. Use a suitable lube (if you’re using a toy or condom, make sure the lube is compatible), and plenty of it!

3. Clean Hands Make For Clean Sex – lots of anal exploration is done by your partner’s fingers but, as sexy as it sounds, having your partner finger (or tongue) you, in your pussy, then in your asshole, (or vice versa), isn’t a great idea. A growing number of people are using dental dams – fantastic for anal oral sex, which protect against herpes and other STDs. If you prefer cock all the way, change condoms as you alternate sessions between your cunt and ass, or take time out with a steamy shower romp before you swap positions.

4. Positioning – is vital. It might come as a surprise to some, that the standard position, like you see in the movies – ie. doggy style – isn’t necessarily the best position to adopt, if you’re a relative novice. For beginners (and for many advanced back door operatives), the traditional missionary position is by far the easiest, less-painful way of getting fucked in the ass. Your body is used to relaxing this way, and mentally you already know what to expect – it’s just going to happen in a different hole. Remember, great sex isn’t just about the physical, it’s about the emotional. A relaxed brain means a relaxed body. And that means fantastic fucking.

And, finally…

5. Communication is key. For both men and women, agreeing to let someone screw you up the ass, takes a LOT of trust. You both need to feel comfortable doing it, and feel equally comfortable that you can ask your partner to stop, at any time. The first time WILL hurt, and anyone who tells you differently, is lying. But, do remember your first time having ‘normal’ sex? Well, that hurt, too, right? But it didn’t stop you doing it. And nor should this. Because, after lots of practice, anal sex can be one of the most intense and satisfying ways to get fucked. Believe me, I know.

Another handy tip, to take the fear out of ass-fucking, is to try one of the myriad toys out there, each designed to make the experience one to remember. Anal beads are a great way to get those nerve endings working – the anus has oodles more sensitivity than pussies or cocks – and you can even buy special anal vibrators, to get your party started. Browse one of the many online sex stores – they’re not all filthmongers, most of them actually sell fun, little gadgets that will open a whole new world of playtime to you.

What have you got to lose?

I hope these tips have helped – any questions, comments, or anecdotes of your own first-time experiences, plus any suggestions to help other first-timers, feel free to leave them below.